Mar 31 2008
What Will Your Legacy Be?
Growing older – we hate to admit it:
I recently received an email from a high school classmate of mine, “Liz”, who now lives in
It was a Sunday. Both my daughters were gone for the weekend and I had the house all to myself. Quiet around my place is rare, so I plopped on the couch and thumbed through the yearbook while listening to classic 60’s music (I wanted the right mood). I laughed to myself while turning the pages. Good grief, those bee hive hairdos and thick makeup the girls wore. The guys had short haircuts. Even the cool ones looked like nerds. All the glasses back then were these thick plastic horn-rimmed things that came in 2 colors – black or black. There were my old teachers – Mrs. Plock from junior English, Mr. Swearingen from sophomore Biology. For half an hour I was 17 again and the memories came flooding back.
I have two confessions to make (keep this between us). First, I sometimes browse my high school’s alumni website and look to see how many of my classmates from 1968 are deceased. I know, I know… it’s morbid and I shouldn’t do it. It’s just so darn tempting to find out how many have passed away (the tally is up to 49 so far). My theory is if I’m the last one left, then I win. Second, I’m terrified of going to any reunion. I backed out of going to my 30th reunion at the last minute because I kept hearing stories like how one guy died when his trailer caught fire, another had lung cancer, and the school heartthrob is now 300 lbs and walks around with an oxygen tank. I’m in denial. I don’t want to know what’s going on with my high school classmates. I don’t want them to grow up. In my mind, I selfishly want them to stay 17 forever; young and full of optimism about their dreams.
Everybody needs a “Family Continuity” plan:
So what has any of this got to do with life insurance? Everything. I talk to people from all age groups across the country every day. I ask each person the same health-related questions. I meet young couples that just had their first baby and want term insurance as part of their family financial portfolio. On the other hand, I meet the 50-60 year olds from my generation that are shocked into reality when their neighbor or relative dies and it finally dawns on them they have no family protection if they pass away because they kept putting it off all these years.
After hundreds of phone conversations, I can predict with relative certainty; if a client is 55 or older, they’re taking prescription medications – usually for diabetes, high blood pressure, and cholesterol. And guess what? Most of them are in denial. They insist their diabetes is temporary: “Oh, I’m only taking these meds until I can control my weight with diet and exercise.” Or, “My doctor says I’m ‘fully recovered’ from my quadruple by-pass surgery and I’ve got the energy of a 30 year-old.” Uh-huh. Drop and give me 20 push-ups. I’ll call the paramedics when you’re done.
On the weekend of my 55th birthday in 2005 I had a stroke and spent a week in the hospital. 5 days and $30,000 later I also learned I’m a diabetic. Luckily, the stroke was a minor one and left me with only a slight neuropathy on my left side that I’ll have the rest of my life (I can’t feel or distinguish hot or cold). That’s all the warning I needed to make some drastic changes/improvements in my lifestyle. I exercise regularly now and completely altered my diet.
I also took out term life insurance. It occurred to me if I suddenly die, my family would be left with some serious financial burdens that could easily be avoided with a few simple arrangements. Here’s my logic. When disaster strikes; most corporations have a “Disaster Recovery” or “Business Continuity” plan to keep operations going. Sometimes, business executives are in denial too. Companies that aren’t prepared, go out of business. So why shouldn’t you and I have a “Family Continuity” plan if tragedy strikes us? Since my stroke 3 years ago, I wake up every day asking myself one question: “What kind of legacy will I leave my children?” What would your answer be?


